Visualizations work to influence change on an unconscious level regardless of the medium such as a vision board or series of images you see in your mind. Our unconscious mind is the part of the brain that is responsible for our decisions and actions (we back these decisions up with logic and reason).

Within the unconscious mind is our filtering system – the Reticular Activating System (RAS) – which determines what opportunities we become aware of consciously and what stays in the recesses of the unconscious mind. Think of the RAS like the world’s most advanced GPS system. Whatever we program into the RAS, the unconscious mind will set out to find the fastest and easiest route for us.

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These days in business and in life, everyone is looking for an edge. An upper hand that will allow them to execute and succeed on higher and higher levels to experience the success, freedom and fulfilment they seek. With top entrepreneurs and business people sharing the secrets of their success and urging others to engage in daily routines that include activities such as visualizations to get to the top, more and more people are turning to these once “woo woo” techniques to gain that upper hand.

Like anything in business and in life, there is a right way and a wrong way to do anything. I often hear from clients and workshop participants that techniques like meditation, visualization and goal setting simply “don’t work” for them. Yet, when we delve deeper into HOW they do these processes, it quickly becomes clear that the issue isn’t so much that their brain is different and therefore the technique doesn’t work, rather it’s a case of the technique being done on a superficial level and therefore can’t do the deeper work the person is seeking.

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Self-sabotage. It’s the timeless tale of potential gone wrong and opportunities missed. It’s the hidden enemy that launches an attack when we least expect it. And it causes us to engage in all sorts of behaviours and habits that we never would logically conduct. 

From procrastination to jumping into the wrong opportunity without due diligence, from skipping the gym to not paying our taxes, from staying in a relationship laden with red flags to turning to alcohol, drugs or any other numbing activity…there is no behaviour so low that self-sabotage won’t stoop to. All these behaviours are designed with one goal in mind – to stop us from following through or reaching our full potential.

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As a part of my series about “Mental Health Champions” helping to normalize the focus on mental wellness, I had the pleasure to interview Tiffany Toombs. Tiffany Toombs is the Founder of Blue Lotus Mind Inc and is a self-love advocate, coach and author. She is presently on a mission to inspire and empower 1 million women, men and children around the world to shine their light and live their truth every day. Tiffany combines neuroscience and body biology with the spiritual to specialize in helping people overcome the self-sabotage, limiting beliefs and negative emotions that stop them from living their passions and the life they truly desire. Tiffany (B.Kin) is a Master Practitioner and Trainer of NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) and Matrix Therapies, as well as a meditation teacher and Yin Yoga teacher. You can follow Tiffany’s work on her website www.bluelotusmind.com

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Writing a to-do list is a natural way to keep yourself focused on the tasks you need to complete, both for business and personal life. But if you find yourself not completing all your to-dos, you’re not alone.

In fact, one survey found that 41% of to-do list items are never completed.

So, how do you craft a to-do list you can actually finish?

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Even if they're trying to play it cool, you may be able to tell when someone's attracted to you simply by keeping an eye on their body language. Without realizing it, we all do a few bizarre things when we're interested in someone. And these clues can, in some cases, accurately represent a person's true feelings.

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How do you improve emotional wellness?

What are the benefits of emotional health and wellness?

We’ve all been there at one time or another.

Life becomes “too much” and life balance goes out the window, with your sanity.

You’re stressed out, worried beyond measure, overwhelmed with life or work and maybe you’re even feeling depressed.

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Gossiping brings people together. That much we know from human history.

It’s even natural, to some degree. Kids do it as early as 5 years old.

But when it comes to the work week, constantly saying bad things about your coworkers can make an office a terrible place to work — even if everybody else is doing it, too.

It divides employees, hurts feelings and can even damage your personal credibility.

But not all gossip is bad. As it turns out, there are benefits to complimenting — not dissing — your coworkers behind their backs.

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What are the warning signs of narcissistic abuse that we should know about?

We asked 15 experts to shed some light upon this question.

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To create a lasting relationship, it can help to share certain goals with your partner. These might include big goals, including where you'd like to live, as well as smaller goals, like how you plan to spend your downtime as a couple. Seeing eye-to-eye can mean you're heading in the same direction. But shared goals also make for a stronger relationship.

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Your body language is one of those things you probably don't think about until someone else mentions it. You might have a habit of crossing your arms when you're thinking or bouncing a leg when you're bored, but don't realize that other people notice these postures until they ask if you're feeling OK. Whether you're meeting someone new or just chatting with your best friend, the last thing you want is to convey that you don't want to be talking with them when you're actually glad to be having a conversation, so watch out for these subtle ways your body language can make you come off as mean. 

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While it'd sure be nice, in some scenarios, to know exactly what someone's thinking, the best you can do is get a better idea by reading their body language. This is a skill anyone can work on, over time. And as you get the hang of it, you might notice that it gives you a better idea of how certain interactions are going.

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You’re single, your friend meets someone she thinks you’d be compatible with, and the matchmaker story ensues. You’re going on a blind date. But will your blind date truly be blind? Because let’s be honest, you’re bound to Google search their social media accounts to find out “everything” you need to know before the first date.

While it’s nice to know what you’re getting into, experts share five reasons why it might be better to keep it a mystery.

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“Self-Love” – it’s the modern day buzz word of the mindfulness industry, yet when it comes to being truly self-loving, most people get it wrong. Modern day self-love has taken on various connotations that represent some form of treat-yo-self mixed with retail therapy, red wine and bubble baths that does little more than create another distraction that keeps us from truly dealing with our “stuff” so we can move forward towards all new levels of success.

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ating can do a number on your self-confidence, because bbs, it’s tough out there. If your love life in 2018 was less than stellar, don’t you worry. We’re barely into the New Year. If finding love is what you want, it can happen. But it all starts with you. Read the full article here.

Dating someone new can be exciting, but sometimes the person you're dating isn't totally over their previous relationship and it can lead to a "rebound relationship."

According to relationship coach and director of Blue Lotus Mind Coaching & Training Tiffany Toombs, if the emotions radiating from your new love interest are still a bit shaky when it comes to their ex, they may not be able to fully commit to a relationship with you.

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Dating in your 30s can be light years better than dating in your 20s, as long as you make it that way.  In your 20s, you’re still figuring out who you are and what you want, so it’s not unheard of to have a string of relationships that don’t work out. You were probably more likely to accept bad behavior from a date and keep dating them to see how it went.  But by your 30s, a lot of things change. You now know what you want and know not to waste your time on anyone you don’t see a future with. You’re also way less likely to put up with games and waiting to see how things go.

Picture this: you’ve FINALLY paid off all your credit cards and your DEBT FREE! So you decide to celebrate, by hitting up your favorite online store and buy an awesome new outfit (or 5), before heading out to a dinner (on you of course!) with 4 of your closest friends. You have an incredible night out – all on credit of course. And 30 days later when the hangover wears off and your credit card bill arrives you realize you’ve fallen prey to the good old cycle of self-sabotage.

As an entrepreneur, an abundance of self-doubt and fear can be the lethal bullet to any business or brilliant idea. In a day-and-age where keyboard trolls and unsolicited criticism have become the norm, we see more and more ideas and entrepreneurial journeys landing in the graveyard before they ever get a real chance to take off. Which begs the question – how do you overcome the fear, self-doubt and lack of confidence before it becomes a dagger in the heart of your business? 

Change is never easy. Whether it’s something small, like cutting out a bad habit or dropping a pound or two, or something big, like changing jobs or rethinking your relationship, setting yourself on a new path requires diligence, discipline, and determination. But if any of the 27 red flags that follow apply to you, you’re someone who could perhaps use a major life change. Read on for what they are.